A recipe for raising teenagers


1 x teenager, plus an evolving collection of assorted friends



Grace, kindness, persistence

Extra large dollops of patience, empathy and compassion.

A handful of boundary lines.

Great communication skills - just in time learning, time for different levels of talk, saying what you mean.



Parent from trust; give them credit for being able to work things out for themselves

Give them space to make mistakes;  if you’re not winning you’re learning

Be their mirror and their labeller; let them develop their own inner compass

Role model with self compassion

Resit the urge to rush in and rescue

Teach them to think big.

Let them believe in themselves

Do stuff with them

Invest in family traditions 

Have conversations; share dreams, ideas and wishes

Mix it all together and enjoy the process.